Luvi Silverberg
October 24, 2022

how to Get My Husband on My Side


You've heard it before: "Women want to be treated like princesses, while men want their wives to be the head of the household." That's a stereotype and not always true, but most women do want to feel like they're in control of their lives. However, if you struggle with getting your husband on board when it comes to making big decisions or expressing yourself, then perhaps it's because you need a little self-motivation. Here are some tips on how to motivate yourself without being mean:

Be honest

If you want to be on your husband's side, then start by being honest with yourself. This will help you communicate more effectively with him and allow him to understand what is important to you.

You should also be honest about your feelings and needs, as well as what you want and don't want. For example, if he wants sex but you don't feel like it tonight then be clear about that! Or perhaps he wants something from the store but there are 10 other things on your list for him before getting groceries for dinner? Tell him so that he understands where his priorities lie at this moment in time (and hopefully won't ask again).

By being direct about your needs and desires straight away, there won't be any miscommunication or assumptions made later down the road when things get tough between the two of them

Be patient

You can't control the other person. You can only control yourself. So do that.

Be patient with yourself and your situation because it will take time for things to change for you and for your partner to adjust to a new way of thinking about things, but it's worth waiting for.

Pay attention to his non-verbal cues

If you want to get your husband on your side, pay attention to his non-verbal cues.

  • If he is making eye contact with you and nodding his head, that is a good sign that he's listening.

  • If he is leaning back in his chair or crossing his arms over his chest, those are both signs that he isn't open to hearing what you have to say.

  • If he has an angry or frustrated expression on his face, it could mean that what you're saying just isn't sitting well with him.

Speak in a soft tone of voice

The best way to get your husband on your side is to speak in a soft tone of voice. Speak softly, but firmly. The tone you use should be easy for both of you to understand, as well as comfortable for you. Your voice should also be respectful and non-threatening.

You can use this tone when talking about anything from household chores to the future of their relationship with their family members.

Honor his manhood

The most important thing you can do to get your husband on your side is to honor his manhood. He’s a man, not a child. So don’t talk bad about his friends, don’t tell him what to do, and don’t be bossy or critical of him in front of others. Don't make him feel like he is a failure or stupid or not good enough. Men want respect from their wives just as much as we want respect from them so it doesn't matter if he earns more money than you because if he doesn't feel respected by his wife then it's not worth anything!

Meet his needs first, then ask for yours

Before you can get your husband on board, there are a few things you'll need to do. First, make a list of his needs and your own. Then, compare the two lists to see how they differ and where they overlap. Once you've done that, you can start working toward a compromise that satisfies both parties because it's important to give him what he wants while also considering your own desires and needs as well.

For example: If your husband wants a new car because his old one is falling apart and there's no room left in the budget for another vehicle purchase right now (and neither of these things are likely to change anytime soon), then maybe he should just wait until later when money isn't so tight before making any major purchases for himself or his family members. But if one of his top priorities is having someone take care of him after surgery so that he doesn't have worry about other responsibilities during recovery time (or even just having someone show up at all), then perhaps hiring some part-time help would be worth discussing with your spouse instead—even if it means cutting back somewhere else in order pay an extra salary during those crucial few weeks after surgery occurs!

Pamper him with his favorite things

  • Pamper him with his favorite things

  • Make him feel special

  • Give him time to relax and recharge

  • Give him a hug and be affectionate, whether it's as simple as touching his hand or resting your head on his shoulder, or something more intimate like taking off your clothes and being sexy for each other in bed

  • Be a good listener

Don't get involved with others' business

Don't get involved with others' business. The words "don't gossip" and "don't talk about others behind their backs" should be in your mind constantly. It's easy to talk about people behind their back because you think you're giving them a compliment, but that person will also notice how much time is spent on this and start to wonder if these things were ever said about them. And if they start wondering, they might just stop trusting you and not want to spend any time with you at all!

This applies equally to friends, family members and even co-workers: don't gossip about anyone or anything! If there's something going on in someone's life that impacts yours directly (such as a new job or relationship), then by all means bring it up directly with the person rather than talking about them behind their back. They'll appreciate your honesty, trustworthiness and respectfulness more than ever before—and maybe even consider inviting both of us over for dinner sometime soon :)

You can motivate yourself without being mean to yourself.

You can motivate yourself without being mean to yourself. You can motivate yourself without being mean to others. You can motivate yourself without being mean to your family. And you can motivate yourself without being mean to your friends.

If you are trying to get someone else on board with your goals, then you will have much more success if they feel motivated by the same reasons that got you started in the first place.


Don't be afraid to ask for help. Be honest with yourself and open your heart to new ideas. Learn how to motivate yourself without being mean to yourself, and you'll feel better about yourself too!